How I keep my sanity as a stay-at-home mom
Transitioning from my daily corporate gig to a full-fledged baby raiser has certainly been an eye opener to say the least. It’s been a little over two years since I traded in my blazers for baby bottles, and while I don’t miss the daily grind of meetings and emails, having my new coworkers keep me company in the bathroom has taken a little getting used to.
If you’re wondering what it’s like to be a stay-at-home parent, don’t let the picture-perfect social media posts fool you. It’s certainly not all rainbows and unicorns — at least not at first.
It has taken a long time, with many lessons along the way, to crawl my way out from under a mountain of dirty diapers to find balance in my new life. Here’s a few things I do to keep my sanity as a stay-home-mom:
One goal a day
It would be nice to have an immaculate house, the gutters cleaned out, the kitchen floors sparkling and my car washed at the end of the day, but it’s an impossible feat when I’m rushing my toddlers to the potty, breaking up their fights and preparing snack after snack, after snack… after snack. So I set one goal for myself each day — cleaning out the closet, writing a blog post — just one extra thing I want to accomplish before the day is done. Just one.
The last thing I want to do as a stay-at-home mom, is stay at home. Taking my kids to the playground, the mall or the grocery store keeps my house in a state slightly cleaner than a garbage dump. My kids are also able to play and explore, and I’m able to have conversations with real-life adults — everyone wins.
Clear the calendar
Besides the occasional playdate or dentist appointment, I try to keep our calendar clear during the week. Not only because life with kids is unpredictable, but because we are all tired. Packing in too many things in a day, a week or a month is sure to end in meltdowns, for all of us. Having a free agenda allows me to sip my coffee a little longer, and let’s face it, coffee is my everything.
Accept the mess
Ah, yes, I could spend the entire day picking up Shopkins, peeling stickers off the windows and washing smudgy fingerprints off of the wall, but it’s a never-ending uphill battle. Sometimes I can only scrub the surface, and that’s okay.
Do my own thing
As a stay-at-home mom, my life may revolve around my kids, but I also maintain a life of my own. As impossible as it seems sometimes, I make a point to do the things I enjoy: reading, writing, listening to music, whatever distracts me from the cartoons and crushed Cheerios on the carpet.
These moments at home with my kids will only last a few short years. Yes, there are times where I lock myself in the bathroom and repeat a not-so-G-rated mantra, but there are also many milestones I am a part of because I’m home with them, and for that, I’m grateful.