Mary Kastle is a lot of things. She’s a singer-songwriter, baby clothing designer, and most recently became a muppet-maker extraordinaire.
But above all, Mary is a mother of two adorable children. Her son actually became the inspiration for her recently released music video King of My Heart.
“I was bowled over by the crazy intense love of motherhood,” says Mary. “I also wanted to capture that feeling when you realize that your kids will be on this planet long after you’re gone, and wanting to prepare them to thrive in the world.”
Mary’s selfie-style video leads viewers through those significant and often humorous milestones parents endure as they prepare their child for the future. It’s a true sentiment to how we as parents are so focused on capturing our children’s lives through cameras.
It’s an incredible accomplishment to not only write and share your own song with people, but to sew a muppet to star in it to bring your vision to life is an amazing feat. And all while still having the time to cut the crusts off of PB&J sammies. I recently caught up with this rockstar mama to find out how she does it.
Q: You’re a mom of two, musician, designer and owner of Wizard Wear, and now a you’ve made a muppet and a music video – how do you balance it all?
Mary: I’ve learned to be at peace with chipping away at things in 10 minute increments. Sometimes that’s all the time you have between naps and chores and parenting, so I just have to embrace it and ask myself “what is the most important thing I can do right now to move this project forward?” and the answer is often quite obvious. I’m also a copious list-maker. You have to be organized so you can know where to pick up where you left off.
Q: Hugo, the star of video, is a puppet you made yourself. Was that a challenge?
Mary: It was a challenge! I had never made a puppet before. He’s technically a muppet, meaning you move his mouth, not strings attached to his body. It took me about 3 or 4 trials to get it right, and then making the papa head at the end also took a few trials. I thought it would be a fun way to use my sewing skills, but did not realize how much of an art form it is in of itself.
Q: What’s next on the horizon for Mary Kastle?
Mary: I’d like to do a new recording project. I’ve written a lot of new songs that I’d like to put out into the world so I’m working on getting that rolling.
Q: What advice would you give other parents who are striving to fulfill their dreams while raising a family?
Mary: Generally I hate giving advice because I think everyone’s circumstances are so unique. But I think what works for me is being comfortable chipping away at things slowly. That makes my heart happy because I don’t feel like I have to give up on something, I can just do as much as possible while I’m caring for my kids. The other thing is clarity. I spend a lot of time meditating, reading, and journaling and asking myself big questions about who I am and what I want to accomplish. I think it takes a lot of self-reflection to get to the root of what you’re about. The more you’re willing to go there and sit with the discomfort, the more clear you can be about what direction you need to head in. Then when you have those 10 minutes… Boom! It’s go time!
Also, I think you need to be willing to shorten your process for “getting in the zone.” You don’t have the luxury of a full day to get in the mood to paint, or write, or whatever it is. So you have to be willing to drop in and out of creator mode quickly or else you’ll never inch your works forward.
If you know a #parentwhorocks, let me know – I’d love to hear from you!